所有的孩子都希望自我掌控,这个倾向从他们一两岁就开始了,一直会持续一生。父母陪孩子长大的过程,实际上就是一个将控制权逐渐移交到孩子手中的过程。自我掌控是人一生中最重要的核心能力,它是需要锻炼的。孩子绝不是一放手就会学坏,但也不是一放手就懂得自我约束。他只是像刚刚会走路的一岁孩子,摇摇晃晃,跌倒爬起,走不好,但是还想走。 All children want self-control, a tendency that starts with them for a year or two and lasts forever. The process of parents growing up with their children is actually a gradual transfer of control to the child’s hands. Self-control is one of the most important core competencies in life, and it requires exercise. Children will not learn to let go, but not a self-restraint. He is just like a one-year-old kid who just walked, staggering, falling off, going bad, but still want to go.