前不久,有位同事向我讲述了这样一件事:上幼儿园的邻居家小孩与另一幼童发生纠纷,手臂被擦伤。其母知道后,先是声色俱厉地责问孩子“为啥不还手”,骂他“不中用”,接着“循循善诱”,“鼓励”孩子要“敢”字当头,先下手为强,还教他以“打不赢也要咬两口”的“绝招”。这位同事曾婉言相劝,说是如此调教不利于孩子成长。那位母亲竟不以为然,还振振有词:马瘦任人骑,人弱受人欺,谁不望自己孩子有出 Not long ago, a colleague told me about such a thing: a neighbor child in kindergarten disputes a child and his arm is bruised. After the mother knows her, she scolds her son “Why do not you fight back” and scolds him “not good enough”, then “follows the good” and “encourages” the child to “dare” “Do not win but also bite two” “trick.” The colleague once politely advised that tending is not conducive to the growth of children. The mother actually disagreed, but also chatter: horse lean riding, people weakly bullied, who do not expect their children have a