真羡慕别人家的孩子,听话懂事,我家孩子不听话、难管教——这样的困惑对很多中学生家长来说,时常萦绕心头。在很多家长看来,成为好孩子的一个“准入标准”就是要听话,孩子应该在自己的“掌控”范围内,自己的规则就是孩子的标准,但更多的家长发现,这只是“理想状态”。但是,看似合情合理的“听话”规则,真的符合孩子的成长规律吗? I really envy the children of other people, obedient and sensible, my children disobedient, difficult to teach - such confusion for many parents of secondary students, often lingering. In many parents’ view, becoming a good child’s “access standard ” is to be obedient, the child should be in their own “control” range, their own rules is the child’s standard, but more parents found that, This is only “ideal state ”. However, seemingly plausible “obedient ” rule, really in line with the child’s growth law?