教育孩子的第一步必须先了解孩子的动机与心理,不然会无法对症下药。有这样一个笑话:有个孩子在学校的一次画画课上用灰色的蜡笔画了一幅画。老师看到了大惊失色,以为孩子有什么心理问题,小小年纪把人生看得这么阴暗,不知是什么缘故,于是请教专家。专家在看了孩子的画之后,问孩子用灰色蜡笔的缘故,孩子天真无邪地回答!“我只有灰色的蜡笔。”大人们白忙了一阵。但是,当孩子真的出现一些问题行为时,就不能这么有趣地收场了。孩子为什么会出现一些不良行为?家长面临一些棘手的问题该怎么办?1.寻找注意力大概是人都有寻找注意力的心理需求。正面的注意力有鼓励、赞美等。我们穿了件新衣,换了个新发型,或是做了件好事,总喜欢别人赞赏两句。如果别人不注意自己,难免有些失落感。没有正面的注意力,有些人会寻求负面的注意力。同样的心理状况在孩子身上也可观察到。他们 The first step in educating a child must first understand the child’s motivation and psychology, otherwise it will not be the right medicine. There is a joke: a child painted a painting in gray pastel drawing lessons at school. The teacher saw the horror, thinking that the child has any psychological problems, young age to see such a gloomy life, I do not know what the reason, so consult an expert. After reading the child’s drawing, the expert asks the child to use the gray crayon, and the child answers innocently! “I only had gray crayons.” The adults were busy for a while. However, when the child is really having some problem behaviors, it can not end up so funny. Why do children have some bad behavior? Parents face some difficult problems how to do? 1. Looking for attention is probably people have the psychological needs to find attention. Positive attention has encouragement, praise and so on. We wore a new dress, a new hairstyle, or did a good thing, always like the other people appreciate two sentences. If others do not pay attention to themselves, it is inevitable that some sense of loss. Without positive attention, some people seek negative attention. The same psychological condition can also be observed in children. they