中年男女,尤其35至45岁这一特殊阶段,往往把自己的人生设计得过于理想化。他们希望自己有一个好配偶:通情达理、风度翩翩、有教养、富于同情心、有水平、身体好,文静深沉、活泼可人;会讲故事、会做爱、会外语、不断升官、不断长工资;会吃、会穿、会玩;会做饭、会做买卖,善计谋,会逢迎,灵活机动,但最重要的是:理解自己、体贴自己,能为自己排忧解难,或者满足自己生理上的需求。倘若配偶双方均不具备这些 Middle-aged men and women, especially the special stage of 35 to 45 years old, tend to design their own life too idealistic. They want to have a good spouse: reasonable, polite, educated, compassionate, level, good health, quiet and lively, lively; will tell the story, will make love, will be a foreign language, rising, growing wages ; Will eat, wear, will play; will cook, will do business, good trick, will be welcome, flexible, but the most important thing is: to understand themselves, considerate of themselves, can solve their own problems, or to meet their physiological demand. If both spouses do not have these