如果你问一个幼儿园的孩子,“你学习好吗?你聪明吗?”,不管这个孩子学习是否真的好,是否真的聪明,你得到的答案通常为“学习好！聪明！”。但是当这个孩子长大、进入小学之后,你再问他相同的问题,得到的答案将会有所变化。如果是一名学习成绩好的孩子,他通常很谦虚地回答:“还可以”;而学习成绩一般或较差的儿童则通常避免回答这类问题。在这个年龄阶段之后,很少会有儿童“不谦虚”地说自己“学习好！聪明！”。那么,这是为什么呢?对于这个问题的回答,我们首先可能想到的是幼儿园孩子不懂谦虚和对自己认识 If you ask a kindergarten child, “Do you learn well? Are you clever?” Whether you are really good at this child or are clever, the answer you get is usually “Learn! Clever!”. But when the child grows up and enters elementary school, you ask him the same question and the answer you get will change. If he is a well-educated child, he usually answers modestly: “Yes.” Children with a normal or poor academic record usually avoid answering such questions. Few children after this age stage say “learn, be smart,” “modestly”. So why is this? For the answer to this question, we may first think of kindergarten children who do not know modesty and know themselves