心理学家告诉我们,当个体走上人生这个大舞台之后,有三种选择:(1)充当社会分配的角色,随大流;(2)选择自以为可以效仿的人物作为“楷模”。用弗洛伊德的话来说,叫做“自我”典范;(3)“我就是我”,独来独往,我行我素,超然而立。 人生下来就是社会的人,总要以各种方式和社会发生千丝万缕的联系。如果把“独来独往”、“我 Psychologists tell us that when an individual embarks on the big stage of life, there are three options: (1) to act as a socially distributed role and follow the crowd; and (2) to choose people who think they can emulate as “models.” In Freud’s words, it is called the “self” model; (3) “I am my”, go it alone, go with the rest, set it apart. The people who are born are the people in society. They always have to make countless connections with the society in various ways. If the “loner”, "I