墓志碑铭在女性史研究之中被广泛地运用,较之官方色彩浓厚,注重典范性示范作用的正史列女传,以及深受儒家理念影响的女教文本,墓志铭似乎能够呈现给我们当时的某些历史真实,但作为以期传之久远,不忍祖先功德泯灭无闻,以慰生者的纪传文本,传真述实似乎就不成为立传者主要的写作原则,历史学者原本就只能透过资料记录者的眼睛进行观察,但资料记录者的偏好与立场,往往限制了我们讨论的课题与方向,但这些企图营造理念社会的士大夫们如何书写自己笔下的女性,如何把自己笔下的人儿嵌套进合乎社会价值理念的框架内,如何调整理念与实际之间的歧异冲突,写出令自己满意的墓志,是我们企图透过立传者的笔得以窥探妇女生活实态所不能规避的问题,本文以刘克庄的女性墓志书写活动为探讨对象,分析刘克庄的墓志书写活动中所面临的问题以及考量,借以瞥见同时代文人墓志书写时的一般情境及个人如何在社会理念与现实之间进行互动与协调。 Epitaph is widely used in the study of the history of women. Compared with the official biography of women who are historically prominent and exemplary exemplary, as well as the text of the female education deeply influenced by Confucianism, the epitaph seems to be able to be presented to us at the time Certain historical facts, but as a long-term pass, can not bear the annoyance of ancestors vanquished, with soothing the biographical text, facsimile truth does not seem to be the main principle of literary creation, historians had only through the However, the preference and position of the data keepers often limit the topics and directions we are discussing. However, how do these literary doctors who attempt to create a conceptual society write about their own women and how to treat their own people How to adjust the differences and conflicts between the concept and the reality and write the epitaphs that satisfy themselves are the unavoidable ways in which we try to get a glimpse of the realities of women’s lives through the pen of the ringleader This article takes Liu Kezhuang’s female epitaph writing as the research object, analyzes the problems and considerations in Liu Kezhuang’s epitaph writing activities, In order to catch a glimpse of the general situation when writing epitaphs of contemporaries and how individuals can interact and coordinate social ideas and reality.