儿童离家出走、自杀等恶性事件的发生着实令人痛心。这些事件的发生并不仅仅是孩子们一时冲动,也不是一种孤立的原因造成的,而实在是长期错误的家教带来的恶果。俗话说:冰冻三尺,非一日之寒。回顾这些年来家庭教育在我国由兴起到持续升温的发展道路,人们不难看出其中错误的家庭教育从开始到失败所经历的过程。笔者曾将这个过程概括为三个阶段,或曰三部曲。谋而不合——失败的起点家教热的兴起,其根源在于人们望子成龙的迫切心情。本来,望子成龙并无过错,问题是,对于什么是真正的望子成龙不少人却认识不清。有些人认为,望子成龙就是要孩子将来能成名成家,或成为人上人;有些人认为,望子成龙就是要孩子能考上大学,以便光宗耀祖;有些人认为,望子成龙就是要实现自己这辈子未能实现的愿望;还有些人认为,望子成龙则是要让孩子将来找个既舒适又吃香又能挣大钱的好职业,等等,不一而足。由于望子成龙思想的支配,家长在家 The occurrence of such vicious incidents as children running away from home and committing suicide is indeed painful. The occurrence of these incidents is not only caused by the impulsive impulses of the children, but also by isolated reasons. It is indeed the result of the long-erroneous tutoring. As the saying goes: three feet frozen, non-day cold. Recalling the years of family education in our country from the rise to the continued warming of the road of development, it is easy to see where the wrong family education from the beginning to the failure of the process. I have summarized this process into three stages, or said trilogy. Seeking Consonance - The Rise of Homelessness at the Beginning of Failure is Rooted in the Urgency of Succeeding. Originally, there was no fault in the wishful thinking of the leader. The question is, many people do not know well enough about what is the true hope of success. Some people think that the hopefulness is to make a child become famous in the future, or become a human being. Some people think that the hopeful child wants a child to be admitted to a university so that the light ancestor; some people think that being a czar is to realize his own life can not be achieved Desire; Some people think that the hope of Jackie Chan is to allow children to find a future which is both comfortable and savvy and can make big money good job, and so forth, and so forth. Owing to the masculine thinking, parents are at home